It's Barbie's World: Superficial Expectations of the Opposite Sex

"Some boys kiss me, some boys hug me
I think they're okay
If they don't give me proper credit
I just walk away

They can beg and they can plead
But they can't see the light, that's right, that's right
'Cause the boy with the cold hard cash
Is always Mister Right

'Cause we are living in a material world
And I am a material girl
You know that we are living in a material world
And I am a material girl"

These were just more than bad lyrics from the 1980s it is also a way of life  for some women today. Women are expecting their men to make them feel secure-- financially secure that is and more and more younger women are entering  romantic relationships with older men aka the sugar daddy ( or in the young males case using older women--Sugar mommas-- for financial security).

Famous sugar daddy Hugh Hefner, 85, pictured with his fiancee Crystal Harris, 25.

Sugar daddies are spending large amounts of ends to keep their sugar babies happy from college tuition, elaborate trips, and pricey shopping sprees; there's nothing that these men won't do, except provide a realistic and meaningful relationship. This superficial expectation of having a wealthy man has left the average men feeling insecure and jaded by the opposite sex.

One student at Emory said, " The reason I am hard on women because they act like if a man doesn't have money is automatically a scrub or trifling [ referencing the T.L.C song "Scrubs"]."

So ladies, would it be so bad if we relaxed our standards just a bit?

Some of you are probably nodding yes while others are rolling their eyes.

Nevertheless, men are not just the victims in this situation. Men also have superficial standards for women in which they expect for them to be living barbie dolls. Take for instance, self proclaimed Barbie doll Nicki Minaj. She has a large bosom and a legendary buttocks all of which are rumored to be plastic. Yet, men don't seem to care whether or not her body is "man made". On the male rating list for women, she ranked number 10 for being insanely hot.  Here's the list according to one blogger:

"10 - Insanely hot. Model material. Great face plus assets. However, I could never get with this type of woman because they would be simply to much to handle. Top 0.5%.

9 - Also amazingly hot. I could date her but probably not marry because it would likely be based solely on looks. Top 2.5%.

7-8 - Wifey material. Still very attractive and hot. But I could see myself with someone like this. Actually could pay attention to things other than her looks. 8 = top 10%. 7 = top 20%

5-6 - Cute or pretty. 1 on the binary. 6 = top 35%. 5 = top 50%.

1-4 - Either fat, ugly, butter face, no physical features, or a combination of them all. Lower 50%. 0 on the binary for me."

For women to be ideal they would have to be naturally blessed or have to spend a large amount of money just to compare to someone like Nicki Minaj; and even then there is always the chance of looking like Jocelyn Wildenstein.  Ughh I shuddered when I saw this picture.

Again, lets be realistic people  hardly anyone has that kind of time or that kind of money especially in this economy does to be a sugar daddy or a barbie doll?

Sadly, so many men and women are preventing themselves from entering good relationships because they are too focused on getting a Hugh Hefner to take care of their financial needs or a life size Barbie.